We live in a society where everyone lives by a highlight
reel broadcasted on Instagram or Snapchat that hides their “bloopers” or “reality”
from the world. Everything is edited, filtered or catered to an audience. If
you are sitting there thinking “I don’t use filters” and “I don’t do this” … if
you are being honest, good for you but, if I’m being honest, I call BS. Whether
you use a filter on a picture or simply filter through which pictures you post,
it is still a filter. Everyone caters their social media to portray whatever
image it is that they want others to see. Even those who post EVERYTHING, and I
mean EVERYTHING, are still working to create a specific image. I can focus on how
twisted this world is that we live in where many determine their value simply
by their social media presence but, I feel like that topic is tired and
repetitive. We all know the implications, we all claim we don’t do it and yet
we all do, let’s move on.
What I want to focus on is a message that seems to keep
coming up in so many social media feeds which is “you don’t NEED a boyfriend”
or “you don’t NEED something you don’t have”. These are very important messages
that I do agree with but, I also think it can stray away from another message
of; “it’s okay to WANT something”. Just because you don’t need something but
want something, doesn’t make you a bad person or a weak person. It is human
nature and a strong motivating factor to keep moving forward in your life.
Just because you have a comfortable life, doesn't mean you can't give up on wanting adventure.
Just because you have accepted that you don’t need more money to be happy, doesn’t mean you can’t work harder at your job to move up the ladder and make more.
Just because you have accepted that you don’t need more money to be happy, doesn’t mean you can’t work harder at your job to move up the ladder and make more.
Just because you don’t need a significant other, doesn’t
mean you can’t go on dates and meet no people hoping that there is someone out
there you click with.
Just because you have accepted that you don’t need that perfect
beach body, doesn’t mean that you can’t push yourself harder at the gym or make
healthier choices for food… even just occasionally.
Desire and wanting is not a bad thing. It comes down to what
you do with it that will determine one way or another. You can look at a
picture of your friend at a beautiful resort and wish you had the means to make
a vacation like that happen for yourself but, instead of getting jealous, maybe
talk to that person. Ask them how they saved up. Maybe take a good look at what
you are spending your money on and start to prioritize or, even meet with a
Financial Advisor.
That drive that can come from a basic desire of something
you want for yourself can be powerful if you channel it right. Don’t let it
turn into jealousy or self pity but, embrace it and work towards what you want.
I truly believe you should find happiness with what you have
and be grateful for it all. That doesn’t mean you can’t push for more. I’m not
going to lie, after seeing some messages on social media I almost started to
feel guilty for the drive and ambition that I have, for the things that I want
in my life. Until I stopped to think about it. Why should I feel guilty for taking
steps towards more? I am grateful that I was raised with a drive to keep
pushing for more in my life and yet, I love the life I live right now. It isn’t
one or the other and ambition should not be frowned on.
Basically, all I am saying is that it is okay to want something.
Just don’t blame others for you not having it. Work towards it, push yourself, plan
and stick to it.
